Healthy Jealousy

 

   “You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars” by Garry Allan

Jealousy is an emotion that has always left me unsure of who I am. I am aware that everyone views this as being negative in a clichéd way. I might concur with this to some extent, but every situation has two sides. Why is it impossible for jealousy to have a positive side?

We all possess the psychological traits that make the sensation of jealousy a perfectly natural human behavior. We are all involved, whether consciously or unconsciously, in this complex emotional game of envy. Considering whether our feelings are accurate?

If feeling jealous of a friend’s success is you being evil or hating them? Or if feeling envious of your partner's friend indicates that you don't have enough faith in them?

My honest opinion is that the moment you start trying to harm a friend or acting in a way that causes them to stumble and you to rise is the moment you start turning evil. You must acknowledge that you don't trust your partner enough if you consistently question their devotion to you and feel insecure to the point that you want to distance yourself from them.

But now let's look at the other side of the picture—a sensation that we can all identify with but struggle to describe or are perhaps even afraid to express aloud for fear of being judged.

What if I told you that being envious of your friend may really spur you on to work hard and advance yourself in order to keep pace with them? Once you do, you find that you get along well with them as you fairly compete against one another. You became more affectionate and kind toward them as a result of your jealousy of your partner's buddy, which made your connection stronger than it, had been before.

What if I give these feelings that aren't labelled the name of Healthy Jealousy?

Isn't it amusing? A negative emotion, a painful feeling we are taught not to feel towards our loved ones, is the only thing that pulls us closer to them with a clearer path. It helps us comprehend them because they may be experiencing similar feelings.

Perhaps this emotion is not as unpleasant and has a broader meaning, allowing us to quit unnecessarily beating ourselves up. By accepting the nature of healthy jealousy and letting the beneficial energy flow.