Gladiolus Life

While pandemic has made our lives difficult to survive, there are men out there who have made us feel the depths. Yes, you did read MEN. Now there’ll be people commenting that not all men, it's true that not all men but it’s heartbreaking to say that it is all men that we need to be aware of because none of you out there are labelled with #harmless #gentleman #I am dangerous #monster. For us to distinguish amongst you all. Why do #yesallmen offend you, but women getting molested, harassed, raped and murdered doesn't offend anyone. No matter the relationship, some predators kill, strike and rape their mothers, sisters, and daughters. No matter how old they are, some monsters brutally choke little girls seven years, seven months, nobody cares. Both dead and alive, women are not safe, even in their graves. My hands tremble when I make these declarations! And why bother? It's not like we can change anything! What will happen if I just write this blog or post some stories there...

Is it really ok to change yourself for others? To meet their expectations regardless of who you are. Some of us would define it as good growth and nice change by saying that it is important to enhance ourselves in order to live a better life. But what if you’re not comfortable with your growth. Do you think it's okay to lose yourself for your loved ones? I suppose it is difficult to define right and wrong when one is in a debate with their loved ones. It’s hard to express yourself when you know you can lose them if you try.  It’s hard to explain your desires when the other person you love doesn’t want you to do that. And in all of this, it's okay to drown and be the way they want you to be. Abandon your own beliefs and begin to listen to them. To start living your life according to their wishes. Learn their do's and don'ts. To start learning their teachings. Speaking up is misbehaving though being silenced and letting them say whatever they want to is good manners. This...

  'Your tribe is what decides your vibe'  There's this saying I've been hearing. It's a little confusing because there is something that bothered me, so I started exploring this phrase. During my exploration, I found another saying that caught my eye.   'Your vibe is what attracts a tribe.' Two opposing viewpoints, who should we remember?  This question is an individual expression this is what comes to my mind. How? I may seem feminist, although this subject is addressed to everyone, no matter who they are.  Tribe deciding your vibe to me appears patriarchal and underestimated. Why must we limit ourselves to a tribe? You make your own choices and people around you, so how can other people describe your value! It's like a group of people who represent you as opposed to you. A notion, none of us would want. Owning yourself and seeing your worth is a form of self-love, who would not like to show themselves within their perspective and beliefs. These two sa...